Posts Tagged ‘moving forward’
I support you. Well…not really.
Posted on: October 16, 2016
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The older I get the more God opens my eyes to the different personalities of people. Some of these personalities blend well with mine, while there are others who leave me hurt and confused by their actions.
Back in 2008, Bishop TD Jakes spoke a sermon on the three types of friends. As he proceeds into his sermon he warns those listening to watch out for the character of people.
The first group are CONFIDONTS. You will have very few of these on your life. These are your “ride or die” type of friends. They will be in your corner through Hell and high water. Whether you are up or down, they will have your back. These people don’t drain you, but rather pour back into your life so that you can pour into others. I can honestly say, I know who these people are in my life.
The next group are the CONSTITUENTS. These people are not about you. They are merely into what you’re for. They aren’t really into you. They aren’t really your friend. They are in your life only because they like what you like.
The third group are the COMRADES. This group of people are really not in your life for the long term. They come for a certain purpose, then they leave. Don’t expect them to react to your visions/dreams/goals the way you thought they would because they never really believed in you in the first place.
Be careful who you tell your dreams to.
During this year, God has truly shown me who these three types of people are in my life. I vent to God and to my husband regarding how I thought certain people were my “true” friends, yet their actions prove something different. My weakness is that I always believe the best in people. I don’t want to think bad of anyone, but some people just need to exit my life.
It hurts that I have ask for help or support from people that I’ve wholeheartedly supported during their time of acting on the vision God has given them. For example, I can send text messages for support with no responses. Only to send a follow up a few days later asking if they got my text, and their answer is, “yes.” Wow, I was totally disregarded. Hurts, but I know God has a plan.
Everyone in your life is not going to be for you when you need them. This I know as truth. But, God will always be there and will supply you with not only what you need, but also put you in the company of those who will help you.
Never give up on your dreams and goals because it seems like no one supports you. If God gave you the dream all you need to do is keep believing and trust him. Trust him, one step at a time. Trust him, one day at a time.
Below, i’ve attached the video of the sermon if you’re interested in hearing it.
Loving the unloving!
Posted on: September 26, 2016
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I am totally a people person, but sometimes liking people can be difficult. I say this because when I consider you a friend, I give 110%. But, often times i’m the one who gets the short end of the stick in the friendship/relationship.
Because I’m a natural extrovert (and a dental hygient) my first instinct is to engage in conversation. I love to talk and encourage people. But, sometimes people can be really mean. I try to remain focused because their actions have nothing to do with me. I was just the one on the receiving end from the stress they were enduring.
For example the other day, I brought my patient back to begin his appointment. This is a gentleman I see every six months, who is generally a upbeat person. But, this time he had a chip on his shoulder. I had him sit in my chair and I asked, “How are you today?” His response was, “I’m here!” It kinda took me off guard cause it was kinda a smart out the mouth answer. But, I let it go and proceeded to clean his teeth.
Unbeit known to me until he told me, he also had an appointment with the dentist right after his cleaning in which he was to have some teeth extracted and other stuff completed. Apparently this had him on edge.
When he first responded in a different manner, I am so glad I focused on the man I previously knew and not the anxious one sitting in my chair that day. For one moment, I didn’t like him, but God reminded me to still show love regardless. And i’m glad I did.
My personality never changed despite how I was responded to and I believe God took noticed and was pleased by my actions.
So remember when you encounter someone who may be short with you in their responses or manner, it may not have anything to do with you. Unfortunately, you are just the receiver for all the stress and pressure they’ve endured. Yes, at that moment it’s hard to like the person, but you must always show love. ❤
Stop focusing on the past!
Posted on: August 21, 2016
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We all have a past. For many, some of the decisions that were made were not the best. But regardless, all decisions have led you to be who you are today. Yes, better choices could have your life on a different path, but you have to stop beating yourself up and keep pushing forward. Focus on the present and how to make your future better.
If you keep allowing yourself to focus on past mistakes, you will never see the blessings of today. God is so forgiving despite what people think. But often it’s us who can’t forgive ourselves.
If in the past a business venture didn’t work out, try it again. Do something different than before. Put a twist on it. Faith will take you a long way. If a relationship ended that you wanted badly, cry hard one good time and let it go. There is someone out there who wants to love you. You are amazing.
Never accept defeat!
The past is there to teach us, but we can’t wallow in it. If God has given you a new day, take hold of it and make the best of it. You are awesome. You are not your past. You have potentional.
Believe in yourself and your future!
Good seed, bad soil
Posted on: August 7, 2016
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Have you ever been in any type of relationship that was draining to you? You would put your all in time and time again, only to walk away unfulfilled, exhausted and frustrated at the end of the day. Often times it’s because that relationship is not for you, so stop trying to force it to work.
Relationships take true efforts and work from all those involved. One can not be a taker and never contribute anything towards its growth. Relationships take nurturing and time. True relationships should mean more than liking a picture or status on social media. It should possess the effort of meeting in person at different times and talking face to face.
If you are the good seed in the relationship and you have the best intentions of growing, but you are feeling “choked” by the constant one-way efforts on your part. Then, you need to find better soil; a better relationship. Find one in which you can grow and you both are fulfilled. Find one in which it takes both involved to have the best results.
Stop wasting your time and efforts where you are not appreciated and uplifted. Plant yourself where you will grow.
You are enough!
Posted on: July 29, 2016
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I think we’ve all been there, giving our all to someone only to be blindsided that your all was not enough for that person. It hurts and the pain is real. But, after you’ve cried your last cry, you have to realize that you are enough. You are amazing. You are loving and you deserve to be loved in a healthy nurturing way.
Just because that person did not value you or your love shouldn’t make you feel differently about yourself. If you gave it your all, then walk away from the relationship proud of the love you showed. Be proud that you maintained your self respect and self love.
You will never be everything to everybody. Be ok with that. The right one will come at the right time…Gods timing. Some people will never appreciate a blessing until it’s gone.
Never think of yourself as less than.You were born great. You were born with everything you need within you to succeed. Trust me, your disappearance out of their life will be an awakening. You were there for a reason. It may not have worked out the way you wanted it to, but it worked out for your good!
You are enough and that should be enough.
Labels
Posted on: July 27, 2016
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Who are you? Who am I? Why have we allowed society to label us? I am a spirit clothed in skin. Skin in which may be darker than some, yet it still encloses my being. Yes, my hair may be kinky and my teeth are pearly white, but still that is not who I am. Throughout life I am forced to check a box so another can determine who I am and how they will treat me. From that moment,the very moment I was born…I was labelled.
Depending on which box I mark in life will at times depend on if I get the job or not. By marking a box, I am allowing the world to label me. So not what God intended.
All I ask is that you look past my skin and see my heart. See that I love people and I want peace in earth. Don’t set a prejudgement by my skin and assume I will never make it. I am a human just like you. My blood is also red, so don’t label me differently than you.
Even if I speak differently than you, I still have a voice that should be heard. I may at times switch up my verbs and adjectives in my sentences, but that doesn’t mean I’m not educated. My dialect at times is a reflection of my pain and struggles.
When will the world stop with all the labels? No one wins. Whether you’re too tall, too fat, too dark or too pale, someone always has something negative to say. All I ask is that you get to know me for me. Learn the person that I am. And aftetwhich, if you’ve decided that I am not your cup of tea, at least you tried to know me. You then have the right to not like me. But only me. Not an entire race.
I get everyone may not not like everyone, but the word of God clearly tells us to love one another. Love despite color of skin. Love despite hair texture. Love despite gender or sexuality. You don’t have to agree, but you are still suppose to love.
Labels cause division. No one is ever born claiming to be a certain race. We are taught that. No one is born claiming they are poor, until someone says to them that they are. No one is better than another. We were all born naked and it is guaranteed that we all are gonna die one day. Die without taking a single thing we’ve accumulated from this Earth with us. We are all gonna die one day and the only label the grave will have is dead!.
Stop labelling and love one another.
