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Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about Happiness and Contentment. I’m 39 years old and I live a blessed life compared to many. No, I’m not super rich nor do I get to take exotic vacations every year. But, I’m healthy, I have a roof over my head, food in my tummy and clean water to drink. Those things alone put me ahead of many. I find in this life I’m happy because I’m content. You see to me, happiness is a feeling and can come and go like the wind. But, true contemptment is a state of mind and being and will not change regardless of the situation. 
I remember setting certain goals in life and I just knew that if I met those goals it would make me happy. But, in reality when I did eventually meet my set goals, yes I was happy for a moment. But then that moment passed and I was off to find the next thing that would bring me happiness. 

You see, with the pursuit of happiness you’ll never be happy because happiness is fluent and can change like the weather. You can look at other people’s lives and wish you were happy like them. But who said they were actually happy? Smiling for a picture is an easy task. Yes, they are on a great vacation, but are they in debt for that moment of fun? Yes those relationships people protray on social media seem like matches in Heaven, but you never know what someone is going through secretly. I’ve learned early on to never envy the appearance of anything. 

But with contentment you’re not easily swayed by the emotion of happiness. I remember when I lived in an apartment with my children. Sure one day I wanted to provide them with a single family home with a yard. But until that time happened, I treated that apartment like it was a million dollar masion. I was content because it supplied our needs and I kept it cleaned because it was a gift from God. I truly believe God won’t bless you with more until you learn to appreciate what you already have. 

So daily I practice the art of contentment. Being content makes me happy. Being content helps me to focus on the blessings of my now. Being content helps me to appreciate my present. Yes, I have goals I want to accomplish in life. But on my way to accomplishing them, I’m content with the pace. 

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I saw this tree on a recent vacation and I couldn’t help but to marvel at it stature and majesty. I’m pretty sure this tree had been around for a long time due to its size. As I stared at it, I began to envision all of what this tree possibly had to endure. Yet, it still has managed to thrive. 

In this life, that’s exactly what God wants us to do. Regardless, of what’s going around us, he wants us to thrive and not just survive. Jesus didn’t just come, die and resurrect just for us to live a mediocore life. 

Just like this tree, despite what you may endure, you have to stand tall. There will always be those who will be jealous of your success, but just keep growing in your niche’ and ignore the noise. 

This tree was possibly grown for its beauty and shade. Begin to focus on your own gifts and talents as you sore to achieving your goals. Everyone has a purpose. Focus on yours and God will open doors into you. 

In order to live your best life, you have to focus of thriving and not merely surviving. 

I believe many people who are trying to do better and be better have expienced the longing for someone to believe in what they are doing, their dreams and goals, and help in some way or another. Honestly, all we want is a quick “hook up.” Unfortunately, many people don’t want to work hard anymore, but rather they simply want a hand out; a microwave success story. 

Realize God is still in the business of blessing people, so why is your main concern regarding “meeting that right person” in your field, at your company, at your church or in your neighborhood? Whatever God has planned for you will happen when it’s suppose to happen. You will meet the people you need to meet at the right time. God has already orchestrated divine connections for your life,so why are you stressing? 

Faith without works is dead, so simply do your part and God will take care of the rest. You don’t need a human co signer to your vision, all you need is the support of God. He created the world out of nothing, so surely he can get you to where you need to be in life. But your job is to simply trust him and NOT lean to your own understanding. Quit trying to do things your way and seek God for guildence. 

Super excited about speaking at my MADE FOR MORE Motivational event on Saturday. I know many people were not able to make it, so I wanted to share the video of the event. I pray it blesses you.

I got married in 2005. Should I had? Probably not, but I did. I thought I was getting old and I honestly wanted children. My boyfriend at the time was a good guy. I think we all have issues, but to be honest I ignored some red flags that I should have paid more attention to. For the most part he treated me nice. I really didn’t have any complaints. We argued and we made up. Typical I suppose for any relationship. One time we broke up, another female got in the picture and it was then I knew I didn’t want to be without him. Was I in love? No, but I did love him. So eventually we got engaged and a year to the day we met we got married. Fast to some, but we did it.

We got pregnant right away. All intentional. We wanted kids. Guess he thought he was getting old too. Had a boy, then got pregnant again and had another boy. Life got busy. Marriage got hard. More fights began to occur. Depression set in. I wanted to die.

One day he decided we should move south for a new start. Hey, I am a free-spirited person I went along with it. I packed up our four bedroom, two car garage and left the East without a job, only with my faith.

I felt imprisoned. I knew no one yet so I had to get to know the people he already knew. They were nice. They became like family. I was content for the most part, but I still longed for my own friends. Friends outside of the church we were attending.

In the South, things got worse before they got better. I began to fear for my life. It was like I was living two different lives. I smiled in front of people, but at home I was crying my eyes out like a baby. I didn’t want to live like this. God can not want me to live in such fear. One night I made a decision. This was one of the hardest decisions I had ever made. I decided I wanted a divorce. Getting a divorce would mean splitting up the family, but I was in so much pain, I only wanted peace. I didn’t want to take the boys away from their dad, but I really thought if I’d stayed I would have died.

Many people stay in marriages for the children, but that would not have been wise for me. They saw us arguing, and I didn’t want them growing up with that as a constant memory in their minds. My focus was on them. Their health and happiness. I didn’t want them to see us fighting or me crying everyday. I wanted their childhood to be full of great memories.

God made a way for me to leave. It took a lot of faith and courage. I left with no job and no money, but God provided for me and my boys everyday and in every way. My life is happy now and me and their dad are on good terms. Forgiveness played a big role and it took me years to totally forgive him, but I can honestly say I do and I am in a great place in my life.

For those in abusive relationships, I would encourage you to look out for you. Your happiness and well being are important to God. Love yourself and in faith make a decision that will cause you to get your happy back!

I can’t believe June will be here in only a few days. Wow, where has this year gone? It seems as though time is going on warp speed. As I sit here I ponder on my dreams and goals. Am I accomplishing the things I set out to do? Am I giving life to my vision board? Am I using my gifts and talents to encourage and help others? Tomorrow is not promised, so staying focused is a must.

In my opinion life is a balancing act. With working full time, being a mom, a newlywed, author and aspiring motivational speaker, I need more time. Or, do I?

“Redeeming the time because the days are evil.” Ephesians 5:16

This scripture speaks volumes. With all that I am trying to accomplish in my life, I must be wise with my time. I must be wise with who I hang around and the activities I endulge in. I must stay focused on my goals, my dreams and visions.

Life is a balancing act, but with focus things can be accomplished. With focus you can cause your dreams to become a reality. Balancing means you’re not trying to keep up with the Jones’s. Balancing means you are in tune with the time you have, thus you make the most of it.

Leaning how to balance doesn’t happen over night, so don’t get discouraged. But rather, with each day focus on your goals a little at a time. Celebrate the small sucesses and always appauld yourself. Pray for direction and always keep moving in a foward direction.

Before you know it, the time you have been given was used wisely and effectively and you were able to accomplish a lot.

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So often we pray to God for we think we want or need. We assume because we’ve been extra good that he has no other choice but to grant our prayer request/plea. But, what happens during those times when God is either silent or his answer is flat out, NO? Well, if you’re like me, you’ve been there and it’s not fun. So often I wanted to yell, “Um, I’m still waiting Sir. Can’t you hear me? What are you waiting for?” I would even cry and pout, but none of that moved God. God is who he is and he knows best, thus sometimes he holds back so we; his children are safe, proctected and not overcome by what we’ve just “earnestly” prayed for.

For instance, I remember wanting to be with this certain guy. Oh, how I loved this guy. I thought he was all of that and a bag of chips. My heart’s desire was only to be with him and him only. But, God thought differently. It seemed the more I tried to love him, the farther his heart was to me. The more I prayed for us to be together, the more farther away we became.

As time progressed, I became weary in trying to get him to love me. I was even tired of praying. He didn’t want to love me and God didn’t want to hear me whine about it. Thus, I gave up on trying.

Time passed and God showed me why his answer was, NO. By me being quiet and allowing him to lead and guide my life, I eventually found out the why. The why was because he wanted to introduce me to the one he wanted me to meet. It would be with this guy that his purpose would be fulfilled. It would be with this guy that the love I so desired would be expressed to me.

This one example was of love, but there are many more we all can relate to. Rather it’s a job, a house, a car, healing or etc, God has a plan and we must trust his plan and his timing. If God seems to be silent, trust him. If his answer is no, trust him. His timing and ways of thinking are not the same as ours.

Be encouraged, God is not trying to be mean, but rather only provide you with the best.


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