Yes, you can live your best life!

One of the hardest things for me to do at times is letting go. Whether it’s letting go of habits that need to be changed, clothes that no longer fit or people in my life whose season has come and gone. I will admit, I’m just that type of person that tried to hold on even after God and the person has shown me that they are not beneficial for the place he is taking me. 

Letting go hurts.

But letting go is where God has me right now. Over the course of this year he has shown me who my core friends are. These are the friends that call/text to check on me and my family. These are the friends who make an effort to ensure our friendship is solid and real. Life is busy for all, but when someone takes time to hang out with you, they really value your friendship. These are the friends that support your dreams and goals. Even if they have no personal intrest in what you are trying to do, they still make sure you know you are supported. 

I never have to ask my real friends for support. And they never have to ask me to support them in what they are trying to accomplish. That is just what true friendship is…

It hurts, but letting go of some people has actually given me more peace. Finally I am realizing who are my ride and die friends, as opposed to those who are only in my life to benefit them. 

I am so over being there for some people and they are not there for me. When they have a new book or anything exciting going on their lives, I buy whatever it is. I am,there for their event. Yet, I don’t get the same love back. 

Confusing…

I am so over texting people and there is no response. Yet, when they see me out and about they feel guilty and instantly remember I texted them. Naw, you can keep that type of friendship! 

Yes it hurts to let some people go, but I now see them for who they are. I trust God to introduce new people to me that will value the type of friendship I care to share. I trust God with my heart because it is broken by the actions of others. I trust God with my future. I trust God with my life. 

To the left, to the left! I forgive you, but I’m moving on. 

I am totally a people person, but sometimes liking people can be difficult. I say this because when I consider you a friend, I give 110%. But, often times i’m the one who gets the short end of the stick in the friendship/relationship. 

Because I’m a natural extrovert (and a dental hygient) my first instinct is to engage in conversation. I love to talk and encourage people. But, sometimes people can be really mean. I try to remain focused because their actions have nothing to do with me. I was just the one on the receiving end from the stress they were enduring. 

For example the other day, I brought my patient back to begin his appointment. This is a gentleman I see every six months, who is generally a upbeat person. But, this time he had a chip on his shoulder. I had him sit in my chair and I asked, “How are you today?” His response was, “I’m here!” It kinda took me off guard cause it was kinda a smart out the mouth answer. But, I let it go and proceeded to clean his teeth. 

Unbeit known to me until he told me, he also had an appointment with the dentist right after his cleaning in which he was to have some teeth extracted and other stuff completed. Apparently this had him on edge. 

When he first responded in a different manner, I am so glad I focused on the man I previously knew and not the anxious one sitting in my chair that day. For one moment, I didn’t like him, but God reminded me to still show love regardless. And i’m glad I did. 

My personality never changed despite how I was responded to and I believe God took noticed and was pleased by my actions. 

So remember when you encounter someone who may be  short with you in their responses or manner, it may not have anything to do with you. Unfortunately, you are just the receiver for all the stress and pressure they’ve endured. Yes, at that moment it’s hard to  like the person, but you must always show love. ❤

I love to watch my boys play soccer in the Fall. With every practice and game all the children run up and down the field eagerly wanting to score a goal for their team. Every time I see their excitment, I can’t help but turn my attention towards the blessings of God. 

Each child on the field is blessed because none of them are sick in a hospital somewhere. There are no cords hooked to them as they run freely across the grass with faces of competition. All of these boys are healthy. All of these boys are strong. All of these boys are happy. 

As a parent of healthy children, I am constantly voicing my gratitude to God for the divine health me and family experience daily. My heart aches when I hear about a family that has lost a child for any reason. 

As I watch this soccer game, I am grateful. I watch from the sidelines of a field, not from a bedside. I pray for the strength of those families who are with children who can’t do regular kid activities like running or jumping. I pray for them all. I don’t take this blessing for granted. 

Please don’t ever take your blessings for granted either. 

One day I asked God how could I make a difference in this world? With so much saddness going on around us, how could little ole’ me bring a smile to someone else’s face? Then he told me…

You see, I love children. I would of had more than the two I have, but I quickly learned where babies came from and I wasn’t too sold on the idea. Sorry I digressed! 

As I sat watching t.v., something I rarely do, I prayed and listened. God showed me a vision of celebrating with children on their birth day. These particular children I was to celebrate with were not your typical children. Rather, these children would be from low income homes or those living in shelters. 

I was blessed to grow up in a home and my birthday was celebrated every year by my mom. But, so often these children are overlooked due to finances or other reasons. 

This is why I wanted to start a non profit organization geared towards surprising these children with a personalized birthday party. 

This organization is still in the developing stage because with everything comes a cost. Would you please be a blessing to me and the future children I plan to celebrate by giving a donation towards the filing fees with lawyers and the IRS? Any amount would truly be a blessing. Thank you again and I’m super excited about what is about to take place in the lives of children.

(please copy and paste link to donate.)

https://pages.giveforward.com/other/page-dksh6k2/

The other day I was in my day to work. I had just dropped my children off at child care, only to be greeted by huge storm clouds. They were extremely dark and my first thought was to go back and get my kids. But it hadn’t started raining yet and quite frankly, I got bills to pay so I headed to work. 

As the morning progressed, the rain and wind hit against my window at work. Yet, the building or the windows were penetrated by its forces. 

This caused me to think…

Sometimes in our lives storms come. Every storm may be different for each person, but while in the storm you begin to wonder if you are going to make it through. Storms can vary from sickness, depression, death and the lack of financies. But, I want to encourage you today that although your current storm is a hard one to endure. I promise you that storm won’t last forever. 

Yes, you’re struggling and asking God, why? But, despite what you may think. Storms bring growth and change. 

By the end of my work day, the storm had cleared and there appeared a rainbow. I had made it through Yet another storm. (just like you will) And just like this storm, there will be others. But, be strong and keep the faith cause this too shall pass. 

The other day my husband bought me some flowers. The bouquet was beautiful, but at first the purple flowers pictured were closed. It wasn’t until the next day or so that they finally decided to open and show their beautiful color. 

This reminded me of how I’ve prayed for something, but regardless of how hard I prayed and begged God for it. Either his answer was no, or it wasn’t the right time. Getting use to trusting God’s timing isn’t always easy, but we must do it. God knows best whether we want to believe it or not. 

Sometimes, No is the answer. Be okay with that. 

Flowers bloom when it’s time and God blesses at the right time. Any moment to early or too late would probably cause an issue. Just like getting something we are not ready to receive yet can be an issue. What if you’re not ready? Then maybe you wouldn’t appreciate your blessing. Just like asking to be married; if you’re not prepared to be a wife or husband then you will not know how to treat your forever blessing. I speak from experience! 

So I want to encourage you to be patient while you wait for your prayer to be answered. Rejoice and have a grateful heart in the mean time. Trust God heard you and he sees your tomorrow, so simply relax. 

For many women, especially single moms we wonder about a lot. With working full-time, some going to school to better their chances in the employment arena and raising children, many are just simply tired. 

But for outsiders, they don’t know the struggle. Women in general carry a large weigh on their shoulders. Everyday they are faced with obstacles and they have to find a way to navigate through it. 

Yes, hard work pays off. But in the midst of the hard work comes a lot of tears. Friends and family don’t see these tears because often they are left on our soaked pillow cases. Our prayers are many and our faith is strong. 

But we are tired. 

We get it done often times with no encouragement and support. We get it done daily by the inner strength God grants us. We get it done late, only to start early the next day to start all over again. 

Women are strong. Women are amazing. More people need to admire the woman and appreciate her. When she is tired, don’t judge her. Rather let her rest. Women get things done and although some days are harder than others. I would still choose being a woman any day!

I salute you!

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