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One day I asked God how could I make a difference in this world? With so much saddness going on around us, how could little ole’ me bring a smile to someone else’s face? Then he told me…

You see, I love children. I would of had more than the two I have, but I quickly learned where babies came from and I wasn’t too sold on the idea. Sorry I digressed! 

As I sat watching t.v., something I rarely do, I prayed and listened. God showed me a vision of celebrating with children on their birth day. These particular children I was to celebrate with were not your typical children. Rather, these children would be from low income homes or those living in shelters. 

I was blessed to grow up in a home and my birthday was celebrated every year by my mom. But, so often these children are overlooked due to finances or other reasons. 

This is why I wanted to start a non profit organization geared towards surprising these children with a personalized birthday party. 

This organization is still in the developing stage because with everything comes a cost. Would you please be a blessing to me and the future children I plan to celebrate by giving a donation towards the filing fees with lawyers and the IRS? Any amount would truly be a blessing. Thank you again and I’m super excited about what is about to take place in the lives of children.

(please copy and paste link to donate.)

https://pages.giveforward.com/other/page-dksh6k2/

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Here are three reasons my heart beats. For many single women with children, we long and pray for a guy who will love our children the way we love them. We pray that the blending portion of the relationship goes smoothly and that everyone gets along. We pray that there would be teamwork and cohesion. I’m blessed to say I have this.

But, before I met my husband, I heard of many horror stories regarding blended families. The children don’t like the new parent and fight for their moms attention. Or, the “new” dad comes in like a bully and tries to control the children. I will admit these stories had me nervous and afraid.

Although my children’s father is in their life, I am their everyday parent. For almost five years, it was just us three in our house. Our house has always been full of peace and harmony, thus I didn’t want it to change.

But in faith I stepped out and met Keith and he has been the perfect piece to our family. The boys respect him and he is there for them. Harmony remains in our family and I am grateful to God for this. I prayed for a good man with a good heart. I finally have him and the boys have an additional father figure who loves them as his own.

This is just one picture of the guys in my life bonding. I really think video games bring males together regardless of age or race. I’m just grateful for little moments like this. My life with my three guys is my new reality.

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I remember when me and my ex husband divorced, my “status” changed in many ways. On forms, I now had to check divorced, as opposed to married. I also had to come to grips with another toe curling stereotype title, single mom.

I hated that title more than anything. At the time of my separation and divorce I attended a very large church. Every Sunday I would see different couples file in with their children and there I was, all alone in a seat with no one beside me who was my partner. The groups I now had to join were either for women in general, or for single parents. When people found out I didn’t have a husband, although they were kind and meant no harm, to me they would always have this pity look on their face. Internally, this took a toil on me. I didn’t want to be different, but to some degree I was. So eventually, although it was difficult, I had to learn to embrace my role as a single mom.

Years went by and I finally accepted this is what God allowed to happen in my life. This season had a purpose. I needed to learn some lessons he was trying to teach before I could be blessed with a new mate. I had to learn that although I may be a “single mom” that I would always be a child of the King. You see, God doesn’t care about labels and statues, he cares about our heart. Over time and after many nights of crying and bargaining with God, I finally surrendered my will and ways and got on board with what God was trying to do in my life.

But, I still desired to be married again. Being a single female I felt uncovered by the “spiritual” protection from a God- fearing man. I knew the design God intended for the family to look like, and I wanted that back.

In time and after much prayer, God in his lovingness introduced me to a wonderful man. Although neither one of us is perfect, we accept our differences and choose to love regardless. I can honestly say he is my soul mate. One day we will become one and my title will change again. Finally, I will be able to check “married” when filling out forms as my heart desired. But what I love the most is that my status with God has never changed. He has loved me through each change, storm, hill and valley.

The greatest status I can ever claim is being a child of God. And because I am his child, he will never leave not forsake me. So whatever your “martial” status is today, don’t get so caught up in titles. Focus on your relationship with Christ because that is the only one that will last through eternity.

Just my thoughts…Adrian

Happy Single Parent Day!!

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(Me and my two on our Valentines date)

Today we are to honor all the single parents who are holding it down for their family. I, personally am a single parent so I am apprecitive of the one day acknowledgement of my role in my family by the country.

For me, being a single parent has been quite an experience. I will admit, not all times have been bad. I consider myself very blessed, because although I am a working single mother I am able to spend lots of quality time with my children. I know for many, this isn’t the case and many parents have to work multiple jobs to provide for their family. So to them, I salute you. Your hard work and dedication to your family, although not recognized daily is appreciated.

I understand as a single mother, my children learn the bulk of their values from me. Everyday, they are watching how I handle situations and how I respond to exciting events, as well as, stressful ones. My babies are but mere sponges, so I take my responses seriously. Can’t say that I always get it right, but when I do fall short, I will admit that I made a mistake and keep pushing foward. Mistakes are apart of life and I want them to not beat themselves up if and when they fall short.

Being a parent is the most gratifying, yet most serious role I’ve ever taking on. Everyday when I look into their eyes or snuggle with them at night, I am reminded about my purpose. God created me to show his love to others. I appreciate God choosing me to be their mom and allowing me to show his love to them through my words and actions.

I salute all of you single parents who are doing it alone. Realize God has not forsaken you. He is with you every step on the way. Be encourage now and forever. Your status is not by chance. You were chosen for a role not meant for the weak. Even when it’s hard, I believe you can do it. Keep your head up and stay in the presence of God! He will guide your every step.

Just my thoughts…Adrian

My days are full like most people. Not only am I a single mom who is raising two young boys, but I also work 8-5. So after work it’s on to my other full time job of being a mother. Most days are pretty routine. I pick them up, get home, prepare dinner as they do their homework and take their showers. After we eat dinner together as a family (no phones or devices allowed) finally it’s time to go to bed. But, in my world it’s not over because both my boys want me to lay with them for a few minutes as they drift off to sleep.

I’m okay with laying with them because I know there will come a time when this will end. But, I often fall asleep in one of their beds forfiting any mommy stuff I need to do, like washing the dishes or getting our clothes ready for the next day.

The employee and mommy parts I have accepted and I love both. But, I also have other passions in which I would like to give attention to as well. But, I need more time. This is where I am still learning how to balance my life.

When I am at work, I have great thoughts about how I am going to stay up a little later to work on my blogs, my books and my inspirational videos, but it never fails…I fall asleep. Often I feel like a hamster in a wheel that is going nowhere.

One good thing about my life is that on some weekends my boys go to spend time with their dad. I really try to monopolize on this time to focus on my passions and purpose.

I am a mom and a dental hygienist by profession, but I know God has placed so much more in me. I love to help and serve others either in words or actions. I love people and I want people to live their best life.

Each day is a balancing act, but I am grateful God gives me the strength to do what I do. In his perfect timing all things will get done. I must simply take one day at a time.

Just my thoughts…Adrian

As a single mom, I find myself always on the go, constantly trying to fit more in a 24 hour day than is allowed. My days start early and they are long. Most days are routine; wake up my boys and get them ready for school. Eat breakfast, wash your face, brush your teeth and make sure you have everything you need in your backpacks because we need to be out of the house before the school bus passes our street. (Who wants to be stuck behind a school bus when you’re already rushing???)

Next, drop them off at childcare, then a quick devotional in my car before heading to work. Barely awake myself, I fight through my desire to yawn in my patients faces, I proceed to clean teeth. I am finally fully awake around 10am after different mini conversations with patients. Finally conherent I am able to finish my day. That is until after lunch, when of course I’ve eaten a hearty meal, I want to go back to sleep.

As the day progresses I am constantly thinking about all I need to do, what I need to buy from Wal-Mart. What will I cook for dinner? Did I pay all the bills that are due? Do I have enough gas in my car? Is there a meeting I need to attend at their school? Don’t forget to pay for childcare or be charged an additional fee. Do they have their soccer equipment in the car? Do I have the sunscreen, water bottles and bug spray? Before I’m off at 5pm, I am already mentally drained.

Then it’s on to pick up my boys from childcare. Within the 10 mins it takes for us to get home, I usually have heard my name (Mom) said over 100 times.

“Empty out your backpacks and lunch bags,” I have to say this everyday. As they do any homework assigned, I hustle around the kitchen to put a meal together. My phone is ringing, but I can’t answer it right now. I hear the chime from my phone due to a new e-mail in which has come through. But, I gotta get these boys fed because they are my priority. Wash the dishes, boys have showered, good night prayers, then kisses goodnight. I collapse on my bed and try to clear my mind. Tomorrow is another busy day.

But although my life at times is hectic as a single working mom, I am blessed to have off days and times in which I can rest. God has given me these times to recharge and refocus. During these times I get to talk to him without the concern of hurrying to get something done. I am grateful for these times in which I can focus on being a better person and mom. I am grateful for my rest times.

I encourage everyone to take some time to rest. Your body, mind and spirit will be grateful you did. Yes, life can be very busy at times. But, unless you take the time to get you right, nothing else will matter. In order to live the best life you can live, you gotta take time and rest.

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