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Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about Happiness and Contentment. I’m 39 years old and I live a blessed life compared to many. No, I’m not super rich nor do I get to take exotic vacations every year. But, I’m healthy, I have a roof over my head, food in my tummy and clean water to drink. Those things alone put me ahead of many. I find in this life I’m happy because I’m content. You see to me, happiness is a feeling and can come and go like the wind. But, true contemptment is a state of mind and being and will not change regardless of the situation. 
I remember setting certain goals in life and I just knew that if I met those goals it would make me happy. But, in reality when I did eventually meet my set goals, yes I was happy for a moment. But then that moment passed and I was off to find the next thing that would bring me happiness. 

You see, with the pursuit of happiness you’ll never be happy because happiness is fluent and can change like the weather. You can look at other people’s lives and wish you were happy like them. But who said they were actually happy? Smiling for a picture is an easy task. Yes, they are on a great vacation, but are they in debt for that moment of fun? Yes those relationships people protray on social media seem like matches in Heaven, but you never know what someone is going through secretly. I’ve learned early on to never envy the appearance of anything. 

But with contentment you’re not easily swayed by the emotion of happiness. I remember when I lived in an apartment with my children. Sure one day I wanted to provide them with a single family home with a yard. But until that time happened, I treated that apartment like it was a million dollar masion. I was content because it supplied our needs and I kept it cleaned because it was a gift from God. I truly believe God won’t bless you with more until you learn to appreciate what you already have. 

So daily I practice the art of contentment. Being content makes me happy. Being content helps me to focus on the blessings of my now. Being content helps me to appreciate my present. Yes, I have goals I want to accomplish in life. But on my way to accomplishing them, I’m content with the pace. 

Recently a family member of someone I know was placed in the ICU department of a certain hospital. Later when that person posted a update on Facebook to inform people of the status of their family member, they said they were loving on her as much as possible as she waited on Jesus. 

Her statment caused me to ponder. Isn’t that something we all are doing unconsciously? True, many of us are as healthy as a horse, but we all know this fact…at some point we will all die and meet Jesus. 

The factual and inevitible is that we are all on borrowed time. The day we took our first breath, an end date was given to us. No one knows this end date or how the end date will transpire, that is why it is very important to live the best and happiest life you can. 

My encouragement to you is as you are waiting on Jesus that you maximize on time by making the most of your time. God did not create you just for you to go to work everyday, then die. Your life has more purpose than that. If you are not living to your full potential you can’t blame anyone but yourself. 

We will never know when it will be our time to meet the Almighty, so make sure your time here on earth has meaning. What will be your legacy? What will people say about your character? What did you do for others or did you consume yourself with only helping yourself? As you wait for Jesus, be busy in the process. Never be idle. Never simply do nothing. Stop making excuses.

The time we have here is very limted, so use it wisely. The people you meet have a purpose. The choices you met have outcomes. Pray with ceasing. Ask God daily to direct your path. Forgive quickly. When it’s finally your time to meet Jesus, make sure that meeting is full,of joy and happiness. Make sure when you close your eyes on this side that you hear those words from God on the other side, “Well done my good and faithful servant.” 

The other day I wrote a post on my other blog Foyokno about 15 things about me. I thought it would be unfair to not include the readers of this blog with a little insight as to who I am. 

So here it goes…

1. I’m a extreme extrovert, but I do like to be alone at times. And when I do people automatically think something is wrong with me. 

2. In college I graduated cum laude, and when my couselor told me the news I had no idea what it meant. I thought it meant I failed. LOL

3. One thing on my buket list is to travel from the West to the East in a RV. 

4. I once dated a Muslim and I’m a Christian. We didn’t work out in the long run, but I thought he was cool and we had fun together. 

5. I can’t hold my breath while swimming. Wierd, but true. 

6. My favorite color is green.

7. One day I would love to meet Steve Harvey. 

8. My long time crush is Usher.

9. I’m afraid of heights, but flying in a plane is fine with me. 

10. I secretly hide to eat sweets so my children won’t ask for any. 

11. When I was young I use to play with fire. That was until I set myself in fire. Ouch!

12. I’ve never been to a Caucasian funeral. 

13. I hate to hear people chew. 

14. People call me a “cool” Christian. Whatever that means?!?!

15. My favorite comedy show to watch as a child was Eddie Murphy’s – Raw. (pray for me. LOL)

Well there you have it. My transparency. I love my life and I don’t mind sharing. What is one thing about you that people don’t know about you? 

We all have a past. For many, some of the decisions that were made were not the best. But regardless, all decisions have led you to be who you are today. Yes, better choices could have your life on a different path, but you have to stop beating yourself up and keep pushing forward. Focus on the present and how to make your future better. 

If you keep allowing yourself to focus on past mistakes, you will never see the blessings of today. God is so forgiving despite what people think. But often it’s us who can’t forgive ourselves. 

If in the past a business venture didn’t work out, try it again. Do something different than before. Put a twist on it.  Faith will take you a long way. If a relationship ended that you wanted badly, cry hard one good time and let it go. There is someone out there who wants to love you. You are amazing. 

Never accept defeat! 

The past is there to teach us, but we can’t wallow in it. If God has given you a new day, take hold of it and make the best of it. You are awesome. You are not your past. You have potentional. 

Believe in yourself and your future!

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Sometimes, I honestly want to give back my adult card and be a kid again. Being grown can be very hard at times due to all the responsibilities that are required as an adult. From rent, doctor bills, car notes and insurance, utility bills and a heap load of other stuff, managing it all can be a bit overwhelming. Not to mention those adults who are parents. Those responsibilities of rearing good children are endless. No longer is it just about you, but now you are responsible for the life of another human being.

I’m one of those adults who has children and bills. I love my life and wouldn’t trade it for anyone else’s, but I’ve been through storms in which I did not know how we were going to pay a certain bill or what we were going to eat next.

My testimony is that although at times I lacked resources, I was full of faith. Faith is what gets God’s attention. Faith causes angels to work on your behalf. Faith causes things to happen in the spiritual first, then supernaturally in the natural.

Life for me and my family nowadays is pretty cool calm and collective. I’m very grateful for all of the blessings in our lives. When my finances are low, I call forth money to come into my reality. God owns everything. And being that he is my Heavenly father and I am his child, when I ask for anything he blesses me with it.

Please don’t get me wrong, sometimes things don’t happen on my time clock, but God is always on time. Yes, there are times when God seems to want to till the last minute, but that’s where faith kicks in.

We have all been given a measure of faith, but it’s up to us to exercise and grow our faith to great levels. The question should never be if God wants to do something, but rather are you willing to do your part by praying and trusting him.

**Plug: My book The Faith Factor along with all my other books can be purchased at http://www.lulu.com**

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I got a man. Not just any ole kind of man, I finally got a good man! What makes him good in my opinion is his heart. His heart is pure, as well as, his intent and motives. No more playing games with guys who don’t really want to be committed. But I’m finally with someone who wants the same things in life.

True, I was happy before he ever came on the scene, because happiness starts from within. But, now that he’s in my life, I feel an extra pep in my step when I hear him call me, baby.

Even if my day is not going the way I would like for it to go, I take comfort in knowing after everything is said and done. After the children have completed their homework, eaten dinner, bathe and and are tucked comfortably in their beds, the time I look foward to the most is drawing near.

We slip into something comfy, position our pillows, I place my head on his chest as he holds me with his arm, and we have pillow talk. It’s here that I feel the closest to him. It’s here that there is no judgement, but rather love, respect and understanding. Its here that I feel safe and secure.

True, there are many other moments in our lives that I enjoy, but I have to admit, cuddling in the bed amongest pillows with the love of my life is one of my favorite places to be.

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Today we took this picture at an Easter Egg event. The picture is awesome, cute and fun. But, it also shows me how fast my babies are growing up right before my eyes. With time going by so fast, I try my best to cherish each moment with my babies who are turning into young men.

Sometimes it feels like just yesterday I gave birth to each child. My oldest was a preemie, weighing in at only three pounds, I had no idea what to even do with him. But, with the teachings of the NICU nurses, prayer and the good Lord above guiding me, all went well, and although quite small, he was healthy and full of spunk.

On the other hand, my second child was full term and came out hungry. Being that I was a second time mom, I just knew I had everything covered. But, he quickly showed me otherwise. All this child wanted to do was eat and not sleep. Coffee was by best friend, and sleep was nonexistent.

Throughout the years, I’ve learned how to manage having my two boys, especially when I became a single parent. We go everywhere together. Even going through security at the airport was a breeze when they were small. I had check-in down to a science.

I love the way they are growing up, learning new things and experiencing more. But, at the same time I get teary eyed because going to such things like an egg hunt will end soon. Yes, I understand everything has its season, but these are my babies and to me they will always be my babies.

As for now, we go to as many “kid” events as possible. When they grow older, I want them to look back on their childhood and remember it as being fun and that their mom spent quality time with them. They are only children for a short while, so I’m soaking up all their pureness while I still can.

So although this picture represents a fun time in our life, today is now only a memory which will be locked in my heart and mind forever. As my boys grow older, I will look back on these times, smile and look forward to making new memories as they appoach adulthood. I thank God for allowing me to be their mom. I know ultimately they belong to him, I’m just so grateful he has allowed me to keep a watchful eye out for them while they are here on earth.

I love them unconditionally and I cherish every time we get to hang out.

Just my thoughts…Adrian


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