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Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about Happiness and Contentment. I’m 39 years old and I live a blessed life compared to many. No, I’m not super rich nor do I get to take exotic vacations every year. But, I’m healthy, I have a roof over my head, food in my tummy and clean water to drink. Those things alone put me ahead of many. I find in this life I’m happy because I’m content. You see to me, happiness is a feeling and can come and go like the wind. But, true contemptment is a state of mind and being and will not change regardless of the situation. 
I remember setting certain goals in life and I just knew that if I met those goals it would make me happy. But, in reality when I did eventually meet my set goals, yes I was happy for a moment. But then that moment passed and I was off to find the next thing that would bring me happiness. 

You see, with the pursuit of happiness you’ll never be happy because happiness is fluent and can change like the weather. You can look at other people’s lives and wish you were happy like them. But who said they were actually happy? Smiling for a picture is an easy task. Yes, they are on a great vacation, but are they in debt for that moment of fun? Yes those relationships people protray on social media seem like matches in Heaven, but you never know what someone is going through secretly. I’ve learned early on to never envy the appearance of anything. 

But with contentment you’re not easily swayed by the emotion of happiness. I remember when I lived in an apartment with my children. Sure one day I wanted to provide them with a single family home with a yard. But until that time happened, I treated that apartment like it was a million dollar masion. I was content because it supplied our needs and I kept it cleaned because it was a gift from God. I truly believe God won’t bless you with more until you learn to appreciate what you already have. 

So daily I practice the art of contentment. Being content makes me happy. Being content helps me to focus on the blessings of my now. Being content helps me to appreciate my present. Yes, I have goals I want to accomplish in life. But on my way to accomplishing them, I’m content with the pace. 

Recently a family member of someone I know was placed in the ICU department of a certain hospital. Later when that person posted a update on Facebook to inform people of the status of their family member, they said they were loving on her as much as possible as she waited on Jesus. 

Her statment caused me to ponder. Isn’t that something we all are doing unconsciously? True, many of us are as healthy as a horse, but we all know this fact…at some point we will all die and meet Jesus. 

The factual and inevitible is that we are all on borrowed time. The day we took our first breath, an end date was given to us. No one knows this end date or how the end date will transpire, that is why it is very important to live the best and happiest life you can. 

My encouragement to you is as you are waiting on Jesus that you maximize on time by making the most of your time. God did not create you just for you to go to work everyday, then die. Your life has more purpose than that. If you are not living to your full potential you can’t blame anyone but yourself. 

We will never know when it will be our time to meet the Almighty, so make sure your time here on earth has meaning. What will be your legacy? What will people say about your character? What did you do for others or did you consume yourself with only helping yourself? As you wait for Jesus, be busy in the process. Never be idle. Never simply do nothing. Stop making excuses.

The time we have here is very limted, so use it wisely. The people you meet have a purpose. The choices you met have outcomes. Pray with ceasing. Ask God daily to direct your path. Forgive quickly. When it’s finally your time to meet Jesus, make sure that meeting is full,of joy and happiness. Make sure when you close your eyes on this side that you hear those words from God on the other side, “Well done my good and faithful servant.” 

Everyone wants to feel as though people actually care about them. With the daily hustle of life, at times it’s hard to catch up with friends. For me, I’m newly married. Not by any means am I saying being married is a hinderance to my friendships, but I will say adding a husband to the mix makes life even busier. Yet, with my faithful planner and scheduled times for “friendship”dates with my girls, dividing my time between working full time, my children, my hubby and friends is doable. At times, tiring, but honestly I wouldn’t change a thing. 

Since Facebook came on the scene (along with other social media) people have become obsessed with “Likes” and “Follows.” Granted for some, being on social media has really taken their life to the next level. 

I’m still waiting for The Steve Harvey Show or Tyler Perry to contact me. But then again…I don’t have a million followers and not that many people are interested in my life to say the least. My “like” numbers are way below stardom level. 

But then again I consider my life pretty simply. Yes, I have some awesome gifts that I attempt to share with the world daily, my focus is on pleasing God. Recently, I stepped away from social media. (Well, just the ones that allow people to “Like” or “follow” you.) I simply wanted to live my life without posting my every move or my every thought out there for my “friend list” to see. I wanted to indulge in my real friendships without “friends” simply “liking” my staus. And for others just to see your business online and say they know you. When in reality all they know is your status.

FYI…People hide behind statues all the time! 

I can honestly say the time I removed myself from social media I was able to focus on more important things. I actually was able to get a lot done because I wasn’t consumed with scrolling though my timeline to see what people were doing. What I can honestly say is that those who actually care about you, check on you. Real friends call to set up lunch dates or call/text to check you.

Here are some things I’ve learned from NOT updating my status:

  1.  I am blessed to have great friends outside of social media. I have great friends that actually care about made and my family. 
  2. Facebook stalkers are REAL. They don’t really care about you, they just want to know your business. 
  3. When you don’t post about your relationship for some time, people assume you two aren’t doing good. So sad. 
  4. I can accomplish so much more by directing my focus towards things of importance. 
  5. Social media won’t become a mini God in my life. I gotta keep Christ first.
  6. Many people on social media ain’t talking about anything important.
  7. God can speak to me freely without having to compete with my addiction to social media. 
  8. Social media can become addictive. 

I want to encourage all those who are reading this to take a break from social media for a set amount of time. Trust me, you will still live. Life will go on. Focus on not putting anything before God. Learn to be still and listen to your inner self. Learn you are valuable and important outside of Social media. 


Let me start off by saying, I am not into politics AT ALL. Yet, I will admit Trump fasinates me. I say this because from what I hear, he doesn’t have any political background, yet he decided to run for the highest position in America. And in his heart he believes he can win. I admire this so much  because that’s the true definition of FAITH! 

“Now FAITH is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Hebrews 11:1

This man despite all odds is going full steam towards his dreams. I may not agree with some of things he says or does, but watching him in action has catapulted my FAITH levels. If he can see himself as President, I should be able to see myself as a New York Times Best Seller. I believe the word of God when it says, “But with God all things are possible.”  Matthew 9:26

“Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” Mark 11:24
But getting on that list or achieving anything in life takes work. Nothing is simply handed to anyone. I must be diligent and be faithful with my part and God will be faithful with his part. I then must trust his perfect timing and stop looking at my watch. 

I want to encourage everyone reading this blog post that if you can first see it in your mind, then it can become your reality. Stop focusing on the now and who you are right now. But rather, view yourself as what you want to become. Live in your mind as if you are already who you are trying to become. The first step is to first think it. Next, speak it. Speak it daily. 

“For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.” Mark 11:23

The other day I wrote a post on my other blog Foyokno about 15 things about me. I thought it would be unfair to not include the readers of this blog with a little insight as to who I am. 

So here it goes…

1. I’m a extreme extrovert, but I do like to be alone at times. And when I do people automatically think something is wrong with me. 

2. In college I graduated cum laude, and when my couselor told me the news I had no idea what it meant. I thought it meant I failed. LOL

3. One thing on my buket list is to travel from the West to the East in a RV. 

4. I once dated a Muslim and I’m a Christian. We didn’t work out in the long run, but I thought he was cool and we had fun together. 

5. I can’t hold my breath while swimming. Wierd, but true. 

6. My favorite color is green.

7. One day I would love to meet Steve Harvey. 

8. My long time crush is Usher.

9. I’m afraid of heights, but flying in a plane is fine with me. 

10. I secretly hide to eat sweets so my children won’t ask for any. 

11. When I was young I use to play with fire. That was until I set myself in fire. Ouch!

12. I’ve never been to a Caucasian funeral. 

13. I hate to hear people chew. 

14. People call me a “cool” Christian. Whatever that means?!?!

15. My favorite comedy show to watch as a child was Eddie Murphy’s – Raw. (pray for me. LOL)

Well there you have it. My transparency. I love my life and I don’t mind sharing. What is one thing about you that people don’t know about you? 

The older I get the more God opens my eyes to the different personalities of people. Some of these personalities blend well with mine, while there are others who leave me hurt and confused by their actions. 

Back in 2008, Bishop TD Jakes spoke a sermon on the three types of friends. As he proceeds into his sermon he warns those listening to watch out for the character of people. 

The first group are CONFIDONTS. You will have very few of these on your life. These are your “ride or die” type of friends. They will be in your corner through Hell and high water. Whether you are up or down, they will have your back. These people don’t drain you, but rather pour back into your life so that you can pour into others. I can honestly say, I know who these people are in my life. 

The next group are the CONSTITUENTS. These people are not about you. They are merely into what you’re for. They aren’t really into you. They aren’t really your friend. They are in your life only because they like what you like. 

The third group are the COMRADES. This group of people are really not in your life for the long term. They come for a certain purpose, then they leave. Don’t expect them to react to your visions/dreams/goals the way you thought they would because they never really believed in you in the first place. 

Be careful who you tell your dreams to. 

During this year, God has truly shown me who these three types of people are in my life. I vent to God and to my husband regarding how I thought certain people were my “true” friends, yet their actions prove something different. My weakness is that I always believe the best in people. I don’t want to think bad of anyone, but some people just need to exit my life. 

It hurts that I have ask for help or support from people that I’ve wholeheartedly supported during their time of acting on the vision God has given them. For example,  I can send text messages for support with no responses. Only to send a follow up a few days later asking if they got my text, and their answer is, “yes.” Wow, I was totally disregarded. Hurts, but I know God has a plan. 

Everyone in your life is not going to be for you when you need them. This I know as truth. But, God will always be there and will supply you with not only what you need, but also put you in the company of those who will help you. 

Never give up on your dreams and goals because it seems like no one supports you. If God gave you the dream all you need to do is keep believing and trust him. Trust him, one step at a time. Trust him, one day at a time. 

Below, i’ve attached the video of the sermon if you’re interested in hearing it.

https://youtu.be/DjnuvrhZ4FU

I took this picture one day while on my way home. I couldn’t resist as I passed by and saw the beautiful rays of lights coming through the clouds. To many this is nothing but a break in the clouds, but to me it reminded me how important it is to let my light (my love for Christ) shine in this dark world. 

The many thoughts, ways, customs and views that surround us daily can at times be very consuming. There are hate groups, hate crimes, racial profiling, depression and mental illness all around us everyday. So what can one must do? 

Still show love! ❤ 

Light will always win against darkness. Love will always overpower hate. Yes, at times tears and blood may be shed, but we can not give up. I myself pray. I pray for peace, love and harmony. I pray that we would humble ourselves and seek the face of God. I pray that although I am not perfect that I will be a light in a dark world. 

I can only start with me. Change starts with me. I can pray for others. I can be an example. I can show love and forgiveness. One step and day at a time will I try to be the best me I can be. One day at a time, I will focus on being a Ray of light in someone’s life. I pray you too will be a light

Be encouraged. 


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