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I will admit I am one of those people who have a bucket list in which I’m trying to check off cool things to see and do before God calls me home. But what I experienced on last week was definitely NOT on my bucket list of things I wanted do or go through. Last week I experienced my very first hurricane.

During these nine years my family has lived in the great state of Texas, I’ve heard stories of how different hurricanes affected the area and the people. And to be honest, I’ve never thought too much about it. The people here seemed cool and calm, so why should I be worried?

As the days approached before the hurricane hit, I honestly didn’t really know what was going on. While I was simply shopping for shin guards and soccer socks, it was my husband that encouraged me to buy water and other stuff while I was at our local Walmart. And although I saw pandemonium within the store of people hurrying to purchase items, I still didn’t think too much of the situation.

“Are you staying or leaving?” One person asked me. I have friends in Dallas that said we could stay at their place, but then I thought about if something major did happen it would probably be drama trying to get back home from a area most people fled to. Thus, we stayed.

After work on that Friday, I swung by Toy’s R Us to buy my children a few games to play with so they wouldn’t concentrate too much on what actually could happen. As I walked to my car I noticed the wind picked up some and it was sprinkling, but still till this point I had a nonchalant attitude about this entire hurricane situation. “What’s some rain?” I thought to myself…

But then later that night, the rain began to fall harder and harder. Never letting up. Tornado sirens were going off and the wind had picked up. It was getting serious. My nerves began to get the best of me. I couldn’t rest. My eyes were glued to the television as I watched the weather reporter say we could walk faster than how fast the storm was moving through the area. I begin to become afraid as I constantly looked out the window for any possible flooding.

It just kept raining.

The Bible says, “Don’t be anxious for nothing.” But, I will admit I was anxious. I prayed and I prayed, but nothing happened. The rain kept coming down and the wind blew harder. Was God not listening to my constant plea? Why was all of this happening? When would it end?

For days it rained. Many people had to be rescued by boats due to the flooding. Many people lost their homes and businesses. Some people lost their lives. Yet, my street never flooded. All the water simply went down into sewer like it was suppose to do.

When the storm finally passed, I watched in sympathy at how so many people lost everything. So many people were now living in shelters with no clue as to when they can even return to their flooded homes. In some areas the flood waters still haven’t receded. Mortgage companies aren’t forgiving a few missed payments, they still want you to pay. How can you make a payment when you’ve lost your car and can’t work because your job has also experienced flooding? It’s all a vicious cycle.

Yet, my home is dry with no damage and I’m still able to go to work.

As I lay in my bed at night, guilt creeps in. You see everyday since the storm I’m able to walk comfortably through my house, take a nice warm shower or even reach in my own refrigerator if I’m hungry or want a drink. So many people can’t do that and it makes me sad. My heart goes out to all those who were displaced due to storm. I can’t keep crying because crying won’t help. Only action and prayer will get these people back on track.

So I will continue to pray…

I will pray for all of those who need peace of mind. Losing everything can mess you up psychologically. Losing everything can mess you up emotionally. I can’t do much, but I can pray and give from the resources that I have. It may not be much, but a little from a lot of people equals much.

This was my first hurricane and I pray it’s my last.

Although many places have experienced flooding, God is still God and we are his earthly vessels put in place to take care of each other. I am so happy to see how regardless of race or religion, people are helping each other and that makes God smile.

Out of the flood came destruction, but love and unity is outweighing and winning.

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Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about Happiness and Contentment. I’m 39 years old and I live a blessed life compared to many. No, I’m not super rich nor do I get to take exotic vacations every year. But, I’m healthy, I have a roof over my head, food in my tummy and clean water to drink. Those things alone put me ahead of many. I find in this life I’m happy because I’m content. You see to me, happiness is a feeling and can come and go like the wind. But, true contemptment is a state of mind and being and will not change regardless of the situation. 
I remember setting certain goals in life and I just knew that if I met those goals it would make me happy. But, in reality when I did eventually meet my set goals, yes I was happy for a moment. But then that moment passed and I was off to find the next thing that would bring me happiness. 

You see, with the pursuit of happiness you’ll never be happy because happiness is fluent and can change like the weather. You can look at other people’s lives and wish you were happy like them. But who said they were actually happy? Smiling for a picture is an easy task. Yes, they are on a great vacation, but are they in debt for that moment of fun? Yes those relationships people protray on social media seem like matches in Heaven, but you never know what someone is going through secretly. I’ve learned early on to never envy the appearance of anything. 

But with contentment you’re not easily swayed by the emotion of happiness. I remember when I lived in an apartment with my children. Sure one day I wanted to provide them with a single family home with a yard. But until that time happened, I treated that apartment like it was a million dollar masion. I was content because it supplied our needs and I kept it cleaned because it was a gift from God. I truly believe God won’t bless you with more until you learn to appreciate what you already have. 

So daily I practice the art of contentment. Being content makes me happy. Being content helps me to focus on the blessings of my now. Being content helps me to appreciate my present. Yes, I have goals I want to accomplish in life. But on my way to accomplishing them, I’m content with the pace. 

So often I speak to people who are not happy with their lives. Everyday has become a routine and they feel stuck. I can honestly say that I’ve been there before. But, one thing you gotta keep pressing for is a better life. This doesn’t always mean becoming a millionaire. It actually can start with having peace of mind. 

You see everything starts in the mind. If you want a better life, you gotta see it first. If you want a better job, you have to envision yourself working there first. Whatever your dream is to do or become, you must see it in your mind first. 

When God created you, he had so much in store for you. So much in store that goes beyond working everyday then dying. God placed a purpose inside of you and he wants you to carry out your purpose. He wants you to empty yourself out so that there’s nothing left when it’s your time to make your tranision from this earth. 

Life is not meant for you to simply work, pay bills then die. 

I want to encourage you to find out what your passion and purpose is and begin to fully live life on purpose. 

One of my gifts is that of an encourager. I am very grateful for this gift because it enables me to speak into the lives of others and give them a word of hope. My gift is so sensitive that I can even sense stuff going on with people even if I’m not around them on a regular basis. What I mean by that is, God will place a certain person in my heart and I will contact them out of the blue and give them a word of encouragement. Everytime, I do this the person is going through a storm and my words lifted their spirits/emotions. 

I don’t take my gift for granted. 

I believe we all have a gift and we should carry out our gifts to their full potentials. 

But to be honest, at times encouraging others on a daily basis is draining and sometimes I simply want someone to reach out and encourage me. It’s shocking how so many people are engulfed in their own problems that they don’t take time to check on their own friends. It’s hurts often, but I try to pray and get past it. 

My phone rings very few times with someone who just wants to say hi or to simply check on how I’m doing. 

So many times when i’m feeling alone, I turn to God for strength. I know I can always talk to him about anything and at any time. When I need encouragement, he sends me to his word. I feel much better after I good conversation with my Heavenly Father. 

Another thing I do is become my own cheerleader. Since no one else really knows my struggles or successes, I celebrate myself. I give myself a high five. Others may not text or call me, but I can be there for myself! 

So I want to encourage you, if you ever feel as no one cares about you. Realize that God really cares and he will be there for you when no one else is. God will encourage and celebrate you, but you have to be able to celebrate yourself too. Stop depending on others for what you can give yourself. 

I’m learning to celebrate and encourage myself by doing things for myself. Even if it’s simple things like buying myself an ice cream cone or a snicker candy bar. I love myself. I love my gift of encouragement. And I will never stop loving people or myself. 

We all have a past. For many, some of the decisions that were made were not the best. But regardless, all decisions have led you to be who you are today. Yes, better choices could have your life on a different path, but you have to stop beating yourself up and keep pushing forward. Focus on the present and how to make your future better. 

If you keep allowing yourself to focus on past mistakes, you will never see the blessings of today. God is so forgiving despite what people think. But often it’s us who can’t forgive ourselves. 

If in the past a business venture didn’t work out, try it again. Do something different than before. Put a twist on it.  Faith will take you a long way. If a relationship ended that you wanted badly, cry hard one good time and let it go. There is someone out there who wants to love you. You are amazing. 

Never accept defeat! 

The past is there to teach us, but we can’t wallow in it. If God has given you a new day, take hold of it and make the best of it. You are awesome. You are not your past. You have potentional. 

Believe in yourself and your future!

I saw this tree on a recent vacation and I couldn’t help but to marvel at it stature and majesty. I’m pretty sure this tree had been around for a long time due to its size. As I stared at it, I began to envision all of what this tree possibly had to endure. Yet, it still has managed to thrive. 

In this life, that’s exactly what God wants us to do. Regardless, of what’s going around us, he wants us to thrive and not just survive. Jesus didn’t just come, die and resurrect just for us to live a mediocore life. 

Just like this tree, despite what you may endure, you have to stand tall. There will always be those who will be jealous of your success, but just keep growing in your niche’ and ignore the noise. 

This tree was possibly grown for its beauty and shade. Begin to focus on your own gifts and talents as you sore to achieving your goals. Everyone has a purpose. Focus on yours and God will open doors into you. 

In order to live your best life, you have to focus of thriving and not merely surviving. 


Have you ever been in any type of relationship that was draining to you? You would put your all in time and time again, only to walk away unfulfilled, exhausted and frustrated at the end of the day. Often times it’s because that relationship is not for you, so stop trying to force it to work. 
Relationships take true efforts and work from all those involved. One can not be a taker and never contribute anything towards its growth. Relationships take nurturing and time. True relationships should mean more than liking a picture or status on social media. It should possess the effort of meeting in person at different times and talking face to face. 

If you are the good seed in the relationship and you have the best intentions of growing, but you are feeling “choked” by the constant one-way efforts on your part. Then, you need to find better soil; a better relationship. Find one in which you can grow and you both are fulfilled. Find one in which it takes both involved to have the best results.

Stop wasting your time and efforts where you are not appreciated and uplifted. Plant yourself where you will grow.


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