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The older I get the more God opens my eyes to the different personalities of people. Some of these personalities blend well with mine, while there are others who leave me hurt and confused by their actions. 

Back in 2008, Bishop TD Jakes spoke a sermon on the three types of friends. As he proceeds into his sermon he warns those listening to watch out for the character of people. 

The first group are CONFIDONTS. You will have very few of these on your life. These are your “ride or die” type of friends. They will be in your corner through Hell and high water. Whether you are up or down, they will have your back. These people don’t drain you, but rather pour back into your life so that you can pour into others. I can honestly say, I know who these people are in my life. 

The next group are the CONSTITUENTS. These people are not about you. They are merely into what you’re for. They aren’t really into you. They aren’t really your friend. They are in your life only because they like what you like. 

The third group are the COMRADES. This group of people are really not in your life for the long term. They come for a certain purpose, then they leave. Don’t expect them to react to your visions/dreams/goals the way you thought they would because they never really believed in you in the first place. 

Be careful who you tell your dreams to. 

During this year, God has truly shown me who these three types of people are in my life. I vent to God and to my husband regarding how I thought certain people were my “true” friends, yet their actions prove something different. My weakness is that I always believe the best in people. I don’t want to think bad of anyone, but some people just need to exit my life. 

It hurts that I have ask for help or support from people that I’ve wholeheartedly supported during their time of acting on the vision God has given them. For example,  I can send text messages for support with no responses. Only to send a follow up a few days later asking if they got my text, and their answer is, “yes.” Wow, I was totally disregarded. Hurts, but I know God has a plan. 

Everyone in your life is not going to be for you when you need them. This I know as truth. But, God will always be there and will supply you with not only what you need, but also put you in the company of those who will help you. 

Never give up on your dreams and goals because it seems like no one supports you. If God gave you the dream all you need to do is keep believing and trust him. Trust him, one step at a time. Trust him, one day at a time. 

Below, i’ve attached the video of the sermon if you’re interested in hearing it.

https://youtu.be/DjnuvrhZ4FU

One of the hardest things for me to do at times is letting go. Whether it’s letting go of habits that need to be changed, clothes that no longer fit or people in my life whose season has come and gone. I will admit, I’m just that type of person that tried to hold on even after God and the person has shown me that they are not beneficial for the place he is taking me. 

Letting go hurts.

But letting go is where God has me right now. Over the course of this year he has shown me who my core friends are. These are the friends that call/text to check on me and my family. These are the friends who make an effort to ensure our friendship is solid and real. Life is busy for all, but when someone takes time to hang out with you, they really value your friendship. These are the friends that support your dreams and goals. Even if they have no personal intrest in what you are trying to do, they still make sure you know you are supported. 

I never have to ask my real friends for support. And they never have to ask me to support them in what they are trying to accomplish. That is just what true friendship is…

It hurts, but letting go of some people has actually given me more peace. Finally I am realizing who are my ride and die friends, as opposed to those who are only in my life to benefit them. 

I am so over being there for some people and they are not there for me. When they have a new book or anything exciting going on their lives, I buy whatever it is. I am,there for their event. Yet, I don’t get the same love back. 

Confusing…

I am so over texting people and there is no response. Yet, when they see me out and about they feel guilty and instantly remember I texted them. Naw, you can keep that type of friendship! 

Yes it hurts to let some people go, but I now see them for who they are. I trust God to introduce new people to me that will value the type of friendship I care to share. I trust God with my heart because it is broken by the actions of others. I trust God with my future. I trust God with my life. 

To the left, to the left! I forgive you, but I’m moving on. 


Have you ever been in any type of relationship that was draining to you? You would put your all in time and time again, only to walk away unfulfilled, exhausted and frustrated at the end of the day. Often times it’s because that relationship is not for you, so stop trying to force it to work. 
Relationships take true efforts and work from all those involved. One can not be a taker and never contribute anything towards its growth. Relationships take nurturing and time. True relationships should mean more than liking a picture or status on social media. It should possess the effort of meeting in person at different times and talking face to face. 

If you are the good seed in the relationship and you have the best intentions of growing, but you are feeling “choked” by the constant one-way efforts on your part. Then, you need to find better soil; a better relationship. Find one in which you can grow and you both are fulfilled. Find one in which it takes both involved to have the best results.

Stop wasting your time and efforts where you are not appreciated and uplifted. Plant yourself where you will grow.

The time is fastly approaching in which Keith and I will be united as husband and wife. A lot of emotions are building up. We are excited about what God is doing in our lives. Watch this short video as we go to apply for our marriage license.

Just my thoughts…Adrian

Daily Inspiration 10/19/2015:

“Yet ye have not, because ye ask not.” James 4:2b

In my house I get this question often, “How come he can have that?” My simple answer is because, he asked for it. In my lifetime I’ve realized God responds in a similar way. He responds to action. When I stop assuming God is a mind reader and I simply open my mouth and verbally ask for what I need/want (with the right motive, of course) God opens doors on my behalf. I encourage you today to open your mouth and ask God in faith for whatever you need. Never waver in your faith no matter how long you think it’s taking. “For everyone who asks recieves.” Matt 7:8a

It’s easy to fall into the trap of caring about what people think.  As children we are taught to obey and do what our parents or adults tell us what do it. “Eat this,” “Say that,” “Go here!” “Don’t go there!” It’s a never ending cycle that could cause a weak minded individual to become almost robotic. Children are customary people pleasers, but at some point when maturity sets in, people need to think for themselves and have a mind of their own.

I remember when I moved away from home for the first time. Not only did I move out of the house, I moved to another state towards the area where the events of 9/11 took place. My friends and family couldn’t believe I was doing this. Of course my mom didn’t want me to go, but I had to do what I felt I needed to do at that time. And without knowing a single person, I set sail and headed east. My time there was amazing. I grew and matured a lot while there. I learned valuable lessons that have helped me to become the person I am today.

Interestingly enough, as a good wife I followed my now ex husband to the south. Of course, once again people didn’t want to see me leave and had tons of opinions regarding my leaving. But, despite what people thought I should do, God had a hidden plan and he knew years later my mom would be diagnosed with cancer and I would be living in an area that has the best facilities to treat people with cancer. Praise God! And now my mom is doing very good after her treatments.

Yes it is good to talk to people about different things regarding your life, but one must always remember to listen to God first. He can see tomorrow, so it’s best to trust him and not the opinions of others.

There will always be people who are not gonna to like you or the decisions you make, accepting that will lead to peace of mind. Be committed to living your life the best way you know how. If people want to support you and wish you well, awesome, if not, that’s okay too because you weren’t created to make people happy.

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