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Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about Happiness and Contentment. I’m 39 years old and I live a blessed life compared to many. No, I’m not super rich nor do I get to take exotic vacations every year. But, I’m healthy, I have a roof over my head, food in my tummy and clean water to drink. Those things alone put me ahead of many. I find in this life I’m happy because I’m content. You see to me, happiness is a feeling and can come and go like the wind. But, true contemptment is a state of mind and being and will not change regardless of the situation. 
I remember setting certain goals in life and I just knew that if I met those goals it would make me happy. But, in reality when I did eventually meet my set goals, yes I was happy for a moment. But then that moment passed and I was off to find the next thing that would bring me happiness. 

You see, with the pursuit of happiness you’ll never be happy because happiness is fluent and can change like the weather. You can look at other people’s lives and wish you were happy like them. But who said they were actually happy? Smiling for a picture is an easy task. Yes, they are on a great vacation, but are they in debt for that moment of fun? Yes those relationships people protray on social media seem like matches in Heaven, but you never know what someone is going through secretly. I’ve learned early on to never envy the appearance of anything. 

But with contentment you’re not easily swayed by the emotion of happiness. I remember when I lived in an apartment with my children. Sure one day I wanted to provide them with a single family home with a yard. But until that time happened, I treated that apartment like it was a million dollar masion. I was content because it supplied our needs and I kept it cleaned because it was a gift from God. I truly believe God won’t bless you with more until you learn to appreciate what you already have. 

So daily I practice the art of contentment. Being content makes me happy. Being content helps me to focus on the blessings of my now. Being content helps me to appreciate my present. Yes, I have goals I want to accomplish in life. But on my way to accomplishing them, I’m content with the pace. 

Recently a family member of someone I know was placed in the ICU department of a certain hospital. Later when that person posted a update on Facebook to inform people of the status of their family member, they said they were loving on her as much as possible as she waited on Jesus. 

Her statment caused me to ponder. Isn’t that something we all are doing unconsciously? True, many of us are as healthy as a horse, but we all know this fact…at some point we will all die and meet Jesus. 

The factual and inevitible is that we are all on borrowed time. The day we took our first breath, an end date was given to us. No one knows this end date or how the end date will transpire, that is why it is very important to live the best and happiest life you can. 

My encouragement to you is as you are waiting on Jesus that you maximize on time by making the most of your time. God did not create you just for you to go to work everyday, then die. Your life has more purpose than that. If you are not living to your full potential you can’t blame anyone but yourself. 

We will never know when it will be our time to meet the Almighty, so make sure your time here on earth has meaning. What will be your legacy? What will people say about your character? What did you do for others or did you consume yourself with only helping yourself? As you wait for Jesus, be busy in the process. Never be idle. Never simply do nothing. Stop making excuses.

The time we have here is very limted, so use it wisely. The people you meet have a purpose. The choices you met have outcomes. Pray with ceasing. Ask God daily to direct your path. Forgive quickly. When it’s finally your time to meet Jesus, make sure that meeting is full,of joy and happiness. Make sure when you close your eyes on this side that you hear those words from God on the other side, “Well done my good and faithful servant.” 

Let me start off by saying, I am not into politics AT ALL. Yet, I will admit Trump fasinates me. I say this because from what I hear, he doesn’t have any political background, yet he decided to run for the highest position in America. And in his heart he believes he can win. I admire this so much  because that’s the true definition of FAITH! 

“Now FAITH is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Hebrews 11:1

This man despite all odds is going full steam towards his dreams. I may not agree with some of things he says or does, but watching him in action has catapulted my FAITH levels. If he can see himself as President, I should be able to see myself as a New York Times Best Seller. I believe the word of God when it says, “But with God all things are possible.”  Matthew 9:26

“Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” Mark 11:24
But getting on that list or achieving anything in life takes work. Nothing is simply handed to anyone. I must be diligent and be faithful with my part and God will be faithful with his part. I then must trust his perfect timing and stop looking at my watch. 

I want to encourage everyone reading this blog post that if you can first see it in your mind, then it can become your reality. Stop focusing on the now and who you are right now. But rather, view yourself as what you want to become. Live in your mind as if you are already who you are trying to become. The first step is to first think it. Next, speak it. Speak it daily. 

“For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.” Mark 11:23

The older I get the more God opens my eyes to the different personalities of people. Some of these personalities blend well with mine, while there are others who leave me hurt and confused by their actions. 

Back in 2008, Bishop TD Jakes spoke a sermon on the three types of friends. As he proceeds into his sermon he warns those listening to watch out for the character of people. 

The first group are CONFIDONTS. You will have very few of these on your life. These are your “ride or die” type of friends. They will be in your corner through Hell and high water. Whether you are up or down, they will have your back. These people don’t drain you, but rather pour back into your life so that you can pour into others. I can honestly say, I know who these people are in my life. 

The next group are the CONSTITUENTS. These people are not about you. They are merely into what you’re for. They aren’t really into you. They aren’t really your friend. They are in your life only because they like what you like. 

The third group are the COMRADES. This group of people are really not in your life for the long term. They come for a certain purpose, then they leave. Don’t expect them to react to your visions/dreams/goals the way you thought they would because they never really believed in you in the first place. 

Be careful who you tell your dreams to. 

During this year, God has truly shown me who these three types of people are in my life. I vent to God and to my husband regarding how I thought certain people were my “true” friends, yet their actions prove something different. My weakness is that I always believe the best in people. I don’t want to think bad of anyone, but some people just need to exit my life. 

It hurts that I have ask for help or support from people that I’ve wholeheartedly supported during their time of acting on the vision God has given them. For example,  I can send text messages for support with no responses. Only to send a follow up a few days later asking if they got my text, and their answer is, “yes.” Wow, I was totally disregarded. Hurts, but I know God has a plan. 

Everyone in your life is not going to be for you when you need them. This I know as truth. But, God will always be there and will supply you with not only what you need, but also put you in the company of those who will help you. 

Never give up on your dreams and goals because it seems like no one supports you. If God gave you the dream all you need to do is keep believing and trust him. Trust him, one step at a time. Trust him, one day at a time. 

Below, i’ve attached the video of the sermon if you’re interested in hearing it.

https://youtu.be/DjnuvrhZ4FU

The other day I was in my day to work. I had just dropped my children off at child care, only to be greeted by huge storm clouds. They were extremely dark and my first thought was to go back and get my kids. But it hadn’t started raining yet and quite frankly, I got bills to pay so I headed to work. 

As the morning progressed, the rain and wind hit against my window at work. Yet, the building or the windows were penetrated by its forces. 

This caused me to think…

Sometimes in our lives storms come. Every storm may be different for each person, but while in the storm you begin to wonder if you are going to make it through. Storms can vary from sickness, depression, death and the lack of financies. But, I want to encourage you today that although your current storm is a hard one to endure. I promise you that storm won’t last forever. 

Yes, you’re struggling and asking God, why? But, despite what you may think. Storms bring growth and change. 

By the end of my work day, the storm had cleared and there appeared a rainbow. I had made it through Yet another storm. (just like you will) And just like this storm, there will be others. But, be strong and keep the faith cause this too shall pass. 

The other day my husband bought me some flowers. The bouquet was beautiful, but at first the purple flowers pictured were closed. It wasn’t until the next day or so that they finally decided to open and show their beautiful color. 

This reminded me of how I’ve prayed for something, but regardless of how hard I prayed and begged God for it. Either his answer was no, or it wasn’t the right time. Getting use to trusting God’s timing isn’t always easy, but we must do it. God knows best whether we want to believe it or not. 

Sometimes, No is the answer. Be okay with that. 

Flowers bloom when it’s time and God blesses at the right time. Any moment to early or too late would probably cause an issue. Just like getting something we are not ready to receive yet can be an issue. What if you’re not ready? Then maybe you wouldn’t appreciate your blessing. Just like asking to be married; if you’re not prepared to be a wife or husband then you will not know how to treat your forever blessing. I speak from experience! 

So I want to encourage you to be patient while you wait for your prayer to be answered. Rejoice and have a grateful heart in the mean time. Trust God heard you and he sees your tomorrow, so simply relax. 

So often I speak to people who are not happy with their lives. Everyday has become a routine and they feel stuck. I can honestly say that I’ve been there before. But, one thing you gotta keep pressing for is a better life. This doesn’t always mean becoming a millionaire. It actually can start with having peace of mind. 

You see everything starts in the mind. If you want a better life, you gotta see it first. If you want a better job, you have to envision yourself working there first. Whatever your dream is to do or become, you must see it in your mind first. 

When God created you, he had so much in store for you. So much in store that goes beyond working everyday then dying. God placed a purpose inside of you and he wants you to carry out your purpose. He wants you to empty yourself out so that there’s nothing left when it’s your time to make your tranision from this earth. 

Life is not meant for you to simply work, pay bills then die. 

I want to encourage you to find out what your passion and purpose is and begin to fully live life on purpose. 


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